Did you ever stop to wonder about

how much more powerful it is to talk to people and not about them?

Many spiritual traditions will go on and really develop specific theories about not talking about other people.

And it doesn't just have to do with a moral standpoint and a "moral choice to not gossip about others" and to not point out the flaws of other people behind their backs. What we are unaware of when we talk about other people is that 

unconsciously people feel the words and the negative thoughts that you may be directing towards them. So even if you're not saying it to their faces, they're feeling it on a vibrational level.

So, what is your choice?

What is a different approach for all of us?

Of course we have our opinions about people, there are some people we just don't really enjoy much, or we don't want to be around.

With some difficult people, it's actually safe and healthy to keep boundaries regarding people who are toxic to us or who don't add anything to our lives.

What I'm saying though is that when we stop wasting our time, our words, our voices and our thoughts thinking about the people that don't matter to us, or that make us feel angry or mad, we elevate our vibrational frequency AND also, we don't direct negative energy towards others.

So it's a win-win situation, and it's actually a responsible thing to do on an energetic level.

At this point some people may be asking, "well, what if the toxic or difficult person is someone that I can't go cold-turkey with and not talk to anymore? What if it's a family member or something like that?"

What I'm saying is that you should try to talk to the person, or at least be coherent about how you think and how you act in the person's presence. If you can't talk to the person, let them know that there can be a respectful relationship, but it's not going to be something that you enjoy or that they enjoy -

and this is really about living in the truth.

People feel our vibrations more than what we say, so the more aligned we are with how we think, what we say and how we act, and especially who we surround ourselves with, the better it is.

So, it's more authentic to just silence yourself.

Don't complain about other people's flaws. Don't point out other people's "whatever it is that bothers you".

Use your words for constructive and positive things to say.

If someone bothers you, silence is healthier.

You are aware, and you just chose not to waste your time directing toxic thinking towards those people.

Is this making sense?

I hope it is because it makes a huge difference in our life quality. We start raising your vibrational frequency, we become happier, and we start focusing on what really matters and creates expansion and happiness in our lives. 

So what I want you to think about to start transforming your life, if this makes sense to you, is to pay attention because everybody, myself included, all need to really

monitor and watch ourselves when it comes to other people bothering us.

And the thing is, whatever it is in someone else that bothers you, or me, or whoever is paying attention to this conversation, is a mirror image of something in my, or your, or whoever's unconscious mind.

What bothers us in other people is a mirror of our inner world, or it is a mirror of someone in our families.

So maybe someone you don't really like much bothers you because they have some personality trait that you don't see in yourself, so it's a mirror image of something that's not really pleasant for you.

Or that person may remind you of someone in your family. I'm serious when I say this, and when I say family, it's the family of origin: your parents, your siblings, and people you have spent your childhood with. 

It's what we call a "systemic projection".

So once you ask herself, "okay, this person bothers me - why is that? Who does that person remind me of? Is it myself? Is it part of me that I don't really enjoy? Is it someone in my family?"

And then you can realize life is bringing you a "language of consciousness" for you to improve as a person. If you don't know what the languages of consciousness are, download our free Ebook here.

How can we deal with people who really bother us, if it's not a good idea to talk badly about them, or even think about them in a negative way? Where are the practical tools that can help us release this? 

When it comes to negative people and those who bother us, I always advise people to do the Ho'oponopono prayer.

This prayer is in two of my books, actually. It's in the book Your Cardinal Connections where I talk about this in more detail.

Doing the Ho'oponopono prayer is easy theoretically, because if someone really gets on your nerves it will require your willpower to do it, but do it anyway. But in practical terms it really isn't hard at all.

And in your mind's eye, you will not be saying the prayer to the person that bothers you. You will be saying it to but to your Higher Self and to the Divine Source of Life - you will be saying it to God.

Say,

I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.

So a life changing practice is to chose transmutation instead of saying bad words about the person. Choosing  the Ho'Oponopono prayer instead of talking about people will create major shifts in your life quality and increase your levels of peace.

So don't involve someone else, a third-party, in your disconnection from someone you don't get along with.

Don't talk about others, talk to them, and if you can't do it personally, refrain from talking about them on a consistent basis and do the Ho'Oponopono prayer instead.

And you will not be doing this for the sole reason to stop sending bad vibrations to other people (which already is in itself reason enough).

This is also about the quality of your life, elevating your vibrational frequencies and choosing to focus on more positive things.

This is what I wanted to share with you today, I hope it was useful and that you share it with like-minded people who also want to improve their lives.

I really appreciate your presence here! If you have any questions about this topic, ask them in the comments area below this video and comment your experience - we can all learn from each other and help each other grow.

Thank you for being with us in this beautiful Cardinal Method journey and I'll see you soon. 

Much love,

Paola.